Have you ever gotten so into autopilot mode that you didn’t even realize you had your bra on as you got in the shower?
Well, I was deep into that mode & it seriously took that act of silly thoughtlessness to shake me awake!
Two weeks into a hiatus from a grueling work schedule, I’m beginning to gain momentum back in to MY LIFE.
And by “my life”, I mean having time to process a thought, to actually think about how I feel about something, taste the flavor of foods & savor them,
listen to music & dance, read a book & not fall asleep after the 1st page.
Experiencing vs. just existing.
I’m reconnecting to what I like, finding again who I am.
And it feels good!
So good that I’m ready to kick autopilot’s a** & make some changes!
Two summers ago a friend took on a “summer of yes”.
Life had gotten to a spot where it needed a lil shaking up, some newness needed injecting.
So she decided to say YES to any & all opportunities that came her way.
She invited friends to connect her to others, widening her social & dating circles.
As she opened herself up, the Universe responded with amazing opportunities.
In these past 2 years, I’ve witnessed so many blessings come into her life,
from love & family to consistent creative job opportunities.
Its been so cool to watch!
She didn’t sit back & wish for it, or use the “Secret” & wait for it to arrive, she made a conscious decision that shifted her energy & within that shift the energy keeps gaining momentum.
So, of course when you witness transformations like this do you really want to sit by & watch your life stay the same????
I pumped her for info ~ how do you do it? what are the rules? do I always, always have to say yes?
My “over-achiever good student” mode kicked in, I mean I wanted to do this right, get that A+, win the man of my dreams, travel, play, you name it, it could all become my reality…of course that’s not how it works exactly, there’s no “do this & voila happiness”
Its a journey of yeses.
So far I’ve learned old habits are hard to break.
And she’s called me on it!
I didn’t even realize I was saying no!!
Damn Autopilot…hit the switch, eject eject!
Of course, I argued & wanted to be right, blaming a sad mood.
Thank god she argues back 🙂
Now that’ve started feeling like me again, I have consciously made the decision to say
I flipped the switch to yes on Monday
& I am in awe of the changes that have already happened in 4 days!!
I decided I needed to shake up the online dating arena & joined
“How Bout We…” (thanks to her pointing it out as a yes action since she saw me wavering on it due to cost)
It’s a cool site where you throw out a date suggestion & see who bites.
I like the concept – alot!
No hiding behind computer screens for endless rounds of emails.
Just getting out there & dating! Yeah!
They always say dating is a numbers game, so its time to play!
So far 2 different dates this week have happened & several conversations planning dates are on-going.
I have got to learn how to juggle multiple guys!! Quick!
One guy called the other night, & thank god he said which site he was from, with a quick run to the laptop to reference profiles, I was up to speed to keep on chatting.
Things I have learned so far:
by saying yes to a wider age range there is definitely different protocols,
30-something guys seem to text only
& are more spontaneous in date planning – (ding) text: hey, in your area, what are you up to?
Late 40’s-50yr old guys, call for the most part & texts are reserved for sending addresses of meet-up locale,
They also prefer early evening dates…
I’m learning so much 😉
Met Date #1 this week at a cool lounge in the Valley, which I hadn’t been to before (definitely one fun part is finding new spots about town!).
So the entrance was in the back alley,
it was very dark inside,
& he came wearing a baseball hat…hmmmmm
Totally fine date, nice conversation.
As we walked back out in to the bright daylight, out came the words (from both of us)
“that was fun. this is great. we should do it again some time”
Totally Chandler Bing-ed it!!
Pretty sure we both walked away thinking we’ll never see each other again 🙂
Date guy #2 was earlier tonight ~
he picked a really cool spot downtown (another new intro to me).
Drinks turned in to dinner, which turned into coffee after
(I forgot to get decaf, hence my chattiness)
Had a really good time.
And, he’s already followed up for a 2nd date ~ awww yeah!
The good energy is flowing!!
Let the dating games begin!!!
Of course, one of my favorite parts of dating is getting all dressed up for it, especially in summer with all the pretty dress options.
Thought I’d share the go-to 1st date look ~ if you see me out in this, you can probably bet I’m meeting a guy.
My favorite feel good style is
a cute colorful dress, cinched at the waist to show those curves 😉
Worn with an array of shoe options depending on said date’s height (a tall girl has to be prepared in a town of short men). It’s either flat sandals, 2″ sandals or the 3″ heels
And the best accessory, my smile (cheesy, but true, hehe)
Here’s to seeing what fun YES brings!! Cheers